Posts Tagged ‘healthy relationship’

Forgiveness: What’s it Really All About?

Wednesday, January 28th, 2009

Recently I wrote an article for WomenCo about the benefits of forgiveness. And…got some interesting responses and reactions to it. As I reflected on the varied views and beliefs on the subject, I noticed a common thread running through the comments and will write a follow up article that addresses them.

It seems forgiveness ranks high as a relational issue in the minds of a lot of women. In fact, it’s bigger than I imagined. An issue this big deserves more time and research. What is forgiveness and how does it function in our life (for better or for worse) and relationships. So, that’s what I’m planning now–a follow up article that will invite WomenCo readers to reflect more on what forgiveness is and more importantly to use this info to enhance their quality of life. To forgive or not is the question that will ultimately shape how you relate.

So, what about you? What do you think forgiveness is really all about?

I’ll have my article for WomenCo on the issue ready by the end of the week…and it’s won’t be what you think! We’re going deeper into this popular and life-changing issue!

Oh, about the lull in my posting…I’ve been busy researching info for the new e-products I’m planning to launch soon. Will keep you posted.

Be encouraged, ask questions, and get the info you need to make the important changes you desire and deserve!

Healthy Parenting Starts With A Better You!

Saturday, January 10th, 2009

What an enjoyable time I had with love-based parenting expert Heather Forbes in the Secrets that Unlock the Heart of Every Child teleseminar/interview!

I really enjoy the teleseminar experience for a number of reasons–all of which you might also appreciate:

  • telephone-based convenience
  • interaction with like-minded people
  • affordability
  • sizable selection of topics and price points
  • opportunity for personal growth
  • ad infinitum…

If you couldn’t attend, here are just a few nuggets that Heather shared:

  1. Be aware of how your behavior influences upon your interaction with your child–this is especially important during times of stress! Stop and ask yourself if what you’re doing and how you’re doing it helps your child to comply or cooperate. Even better, watch your child’s reaction to you!
  2. Never forget that your child is just as prone to stress as you are, albeit different in scope and character. Your child’s stress comes from the daily demands and routines of life…getting along well with important friends, performing up to their ability and your expectations, getting along with you and siblings at home, homework, sports and extracurricular activities, etc.
  3. Stay committed to your own emotional growth…you are your child’s most significant role model and how you behave in relationship becomes part of your child’s blueprint.

Much of this you know–all that’s needed is a commitment to stay at it! I’m here to help you stay at!

Be encouraged!

Can Marriage Improve Your Health or Does Your Health Improve Your Marriage?

Friday, May 30th, 2008

After decades of studies researchers are beginning to understand the relationship between our physical health and our marriage.  Someone sent me a link to Dr. Jana Staton’s informative fact sheet, What is the Relationship of Marriage to Physical Health?  Here are some factors from the report I’ve gleaned for your consideration and reflection. It may or may not surprise you to know that:

  1. a high quality marriage can protect you from premature death and illness

  2. as a married woman, you can expect longevity and better physical health than women who are never married, divorced, separated, or widowed; and, your income level, race, or health condition prior to marriage has no impact on this marital benefit   

  3. As a woman, you are safest in a healthy marriage than any other type of intimate relationship

  4. As you grow older the effects of marriage on your health are even greater

  5. Being in a high quality marriage offers the best protection for your child’s health and well-being

Each of these factors is ripe for conversation, and here’s what I’d like to do. I’m going to use the next couple of days to post on each of those factors exclusively. Believe it or not, so much of what we discover via studies stands up with what conventional wisdom would suggest.

For example, if my behavior (my thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and actions) is negative much of the time it won’t be long before it takes a toll on my mind, spirit, body, and relationships, right? Of course!

On the otherhand…

If I’m going to turn things around I’m clearly going to have to do some things differently. I’m going to have to take some risks as I learn new ways of doing things. And, you know what the best part of all of this is? I can, you can, we can all change if we choose to.

As far as what marriage can do for your health and you for your marriage—it’s a mutual benefit outcome. Marriage quality and status protects and enhances our physical health, as does our commitment to being as healthy and loving a partner as we are capable of being.

It’s a win-win situation!